By now, you have had the opportunity to reflect on your thinking and may have discovered that, unless you make a conscious effort to think differently, those negative thoughts seem to infiltrate your thinking. It may sound like a lot of work to say to yourself, “Stop, I refuse to entertain negative energy about…” In truth, this will not take an inordinate amount of time once you break the negativity habit. In fact, before you realize it, you won’t have to consciously work at it and the positives in your thinking will out weight the negatives a hundred fold IF you really want to change.
John Steinbeck, in The Winter of Our Discontent explains that if we have a condition or problem that needs to be resolved, we may choose to bury it in our minds, but it “minces up with a lot of other things already there and what comes out is discontent and uneasiness, guilt and a compulsion to get something – anything – before it is all gone.”
Let’s not bury an issue but deal with it head on, with a positive, goal setting approach. To set and ultimately manifest or achieve a goal we must, as a first step, be brutally honest about the condition we choose to change. There is no place for ‘maybe’, ‘if only’ or ‘I wish’. We must be absolutely certain about it. One way to truly get to the bottom line is to ask yourself, for instance, “What is it that I am totally sick and tired of being, doing, not having, being frighten of, or worried about? Think long and hard about this before deciding on the one statement you select. Once you have the statement, write it down and think about it for a few days. How would your life be changed if you replaced this negative condition with a positive? What would it look like, feel like, actually be like? Are you sure this is the most important condition in your life that you want to change now?
On the next blog I will talk about the art and science of visualization. It is the next critical step in making your goal your new reality. Sound exciting? Stay tuned!