I received an email recently from a wonderful person who had read my book and suggested that I write a blog that included this poem from it. She said she wanted to copy it and place it in a place where she would remember to read it daily as a soothing balm for the deep seated hurt in her heart. The Christmas holidays can be an especially difficult time for those of us who have experienced the loss of a loved one. Her suggestion made me feel that both the book and blogs are helping others, in a small way, work through this heart wrenching journey. I told myself that if even one person was comforted by the book I would be grateful. So to all of you who have felt a measure of comfort from my writings, thank you. The following can be found on page 125 of my book.
“You can shed tears that she is gone or you can smile because she lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she will be back, or you can open
your eyes and see all that she left you.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her or it can be full of
the loved that you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live in the yesterdays
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember only that she is gone
or you can cherish the memories that let her live on in your heart.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back,
or you can do what she would want you to do…smile, open your eyes,
love and remember the great times you had with her and go on.
You can grieve that she is gone or you can learn how to hear her because…
She is just ” Behind the Door.”
To my own family who, once again, has recently experienced the loss of a loved one who seems to have left us much too soon please remember what Ronnie told me in the book, “All is as it should be.”
Thanks again to all of you who take the time to read, remember and work so hard to move forward with grace.
Have a great few days!